Your Line Manager sits you in a one to one appraisal meeting. They say, “you are difficult to work with and you are not a team player because you gave John constructive feedback” and they carry on with a “shopping list” of things you did wrong in the last few months. As as a footnote they add: “Ah, and by the way, your KPIs have been achieved and your delivery has been marked as outstanding”. You feel like a rabbit in the headlights. You feel overwhelmed with emotion and you might even well up. You want to justify, defend and explain but you can’t get a word in edge-ways.